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They are staying together but feel hopeless about having a happier life. I doubt knowledge of how to manage money would help them, Susan. They are both throwing money at childhood scars and surely blaming each other for not making enough to feel secure in spite of these two black holes. They are perfect candidates for an Imago workshop or Imago therapy to address those childhood wounds together.
Patty Newbold August 11, 3: Thanks for offering such great solutions. They will hopefully help prevent husbands from being blindsided by a wife's declaration that she wants out. Prevention cannot be overstated when it comes to a good marriage. I really love how you offer several solutions based on specific concerns, Patty. I think CJ speaks dex Pirate or Squirrel. I hope Chapman has some suggestions for that! Tammy R August 11, Hi I hope I'm not Meet local singles FL Deland 32724 late for advice my wife of 6 years Women seeking nsa Lindon Colorado me last week she wanted a divorce because she feel not appreciated and wants to know what it feels like on her own and then she tells me she loves me but is not in love with me and wants to remain friends then she finally tells me she has been talking to another guy and wants to see what happens there Lonely wife seeking sex Sweden are still living Lonely wife seeking sex Sweden because neither of us really have anywhere else to go I have been trying to do Loonely but with the other guy in the picture is Lonely wife seeking sex Sweden already too late I love her with everything I am and have tried expressing this but to no avail please if there is any advice that might help I will do anything.
Jeremy September 6, 6: Jeremy, have you tried asking her what would have to be different for her to feel appreciated?
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It might also raise the bar for the other man she's talking to. And although you make no mention of it and it probably does not apply to you, if you have ever neglected her or hurt her because of your drinking or drug use, get help getting clean right now, before she's made her decision final. Patty Newbold September 6, 8: I have been married 32 years.
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Thanks for listening and your feedback. I do not have any suggestions on how to make divorce any easier.